Letting go of the past

The 75th anniversary of Auschwitz’s liberation is marked today in many places. A day that is important to mark because the past still affects the affected families. This summer my family and I visited Auschwitz and the energy of violence, fear and despair was still very present.

I see it again and again in my work on stress and trauma. The past is a part of us, because our parents’ deep-seated anxiety and insecurity affect us. Maybe it was hard for them to show love and joy, maybe it was growing up in a family where abuse and violence was the norm. And what about that embedded fear that comes from growing up in an unstable family, were we never quite knew what we would encounter when we got home. All things, that make us more at risk to developing stress, anxiety etc.

If we choose to let go of the past, this is done by working at the deep level. Time and again, I see clients who, by going far back, get to the deep memories stored in the body. Experiences and memories that affect them today until they release it. The results is huge and is tangible with more energy, better sleep, greater internal balance and less stress.

The surprise of how much the past affects our present is huge, the sense of freedom even greater.

With RIM (Regenerating Image in Memory), we gain awareness of the unconscious memories. Once memories are brought to light, we can relate to them in a new way and let go of the imbalances in the body.

I offer RIM sessions in person and online – book a free introduction call here.

Are you a coach or therapist and want to ad an effective tool to help uncover the hidden blocks – then click here and schedule a time to learn more about this technique to see if it is a good fit for you. I am offering several RIM Essential Trainings in Europe every year as well as there are trainings in the States. Let’s together can help our clients release their past and increase the quality of life.


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Lotte Vesterli
Occupational Therapist, Coach, Master RIM-facilitator
Author of the upcoming book: Life after Bullying

4 years after Utøya

Four years ago today life changes for many people. 69 young people died in a terror attack on Utøya and the survivors and relatives is still having a hard time dealing with their trauma.

Unfortunately Utøya is not the only place terror is happening. Suicide bombing and  shootings is happening all over the world. Some hit the news others don’t. No matter what the survivors and relatives are the one that is suffering in the long run.

Research shows that a traumatic memory is stored in our memory at a cellular level. It also shows that there is treatment that can support you in unlocking this memory and rework it into a emotionally more healthy memory.

Personally I have had success with the RIM method. First to heal my own traumatic experience and over the past years to help many people unlock their traumatic experience and be able to move forward in their life. No matter what you choose, keep working on your self and step by step you will move forward.

If you are interested in learning more about the RIM method feel free to contact me either by email [email protected] or phone +45 60 18 32 36 to set up a free introduction.

Lotte Vesterli

Occupational Therapist, Coach, Master RIM-facilitator
Upcoming author of “Life after Bullying”

Accepting my feelings are giving up?

Actually the opposite is the case. When you accept your feelings you allow them to flow instead of suppressing them. Feelings that flow can be handled.

Most people I know have at least once exploded in rage or started to cry of an apparently very little reason. When looking at the feelings that are bobbling up most often it contains several issues that has been suppressed over time.

When being able to notice your feelings and accept them as they are in any given moment, they can flow freely. You can help them on their way by just breathing though them with some nice deep breaths and sense how they pas though your body. Very much in the same way as the nurse teach you to handle your pain when giving birth to a baby.

In the beginning this technic is easiest with small issues and emotions that are coming up though out a day. As you get used to using the breathing method you can work with bigger emotions that you have suppressed over time.

When you have tried this technic let me know how it worked for you by commenting below.

Push your limits

The sun was going down, still you could see the on last ray coming though, but in a moment it would be swallowed by the water and the signal would sound. Here I was among more than a 1000 other runners ready to take off.

It is midsummer, sun set at 10.22 pm and I would see it rise at 4.36 am. The signal sounds and we take off from the westcoast. The goal to reach the Eastcoast after a 50 k run.

Physical challenges can be tough and yet very revarding. When pushing your limits just far enough to have to go to your limits in order to succeed then you truely grow personally.

Friday I did what for me was the ultimate challenge. I had signed up for a 50 k last year and now it was taking place. My goal was to complete the 50 k in what ever way that would take, the ultimate goal to complete by running the whole way.

I ended up completing by walking quite a bit at the end. And I felt great. The learning for me was worth every painful step. Though the training and the challenge I have learned just how far I can push psycially and mentally a learning that have made me grow personally. It is not about winning. It is only about keep going and  completing, at the end you will reach your goal. A learning that can be transferred into any area of your life.

You don’t need to do a 50 k to push though your limits. What feels like a challenge to you? Maybe a 5 k or a half marathon? Or maybe it is a long walk, a bikeride or joining a gym class and continue it for the four month til you finely feel you master it and want to keep going.

Push your limits and expand your comfortzone. What will be your challnge? Share on my facebook page lifeafterbullying.

Meditation strenghtens your system

Meditation is one key to streghten your system. Honestly I believe it to be a very important key as meditation supports you in feeling more relaxed and grow your resiliance muscle. Meditation calm our mind and improve your sleep. I can continue with the benefits but instead I will present you for a fantastic offer.

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Memorial day

Today we are remembering our Soldiers who died in Service. Let’s also pause and remembering all the Soldiers that throughout the wars have come home with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or other mental illnesses.

These Soldiers, and their families, suffered and suffer for the rest of their life if nothing is being done to support them. In my work I meet children and grandchildren of Traumatized Soldiers who them self are suffering from having lived with a dad who could easily explode in anger or a dad who wasn’t capable of showing emotions at all.

Often only little help is offered, but there are hope for a better life. A life with less reactions and a higher quality of life. I just worked with a client who from a mere 5 sessions with me went from having more than 25 body-reactions a day to less than 1,5. Most days, today, she hardly experience any reactions, and only in stress full situations do they increase to 2 – 4 a day. This can be your experience too, if you are ready to work for you.

Are you interested in living a higher quality of life and increase your inner peace? Contact me today by sending an email to [email protected] and I will set up a free introduction call with you.

Solar Eclipse

A total Solar Eclipse just happened here on the Faroe Islands. Up till the last minute people were following the weather forecast closely, getting more and more anxious. Would we be able to see the eclipse?

In this case you can choose to worry or to live in the now, accepting what is happening at any given moment. Living in the now does not mean not following the weather forecast. What it does mean is following the forecast and choosing not to worry – to accept whatever is happening and be fully present in the moment, enjoying the experience no matter what.

We can’t predict our life. We can plan for many things, but there are also many things in life that we can’t control. When we worry about the things we can’t control, we are not giving ourselves the opportunity to live in the present and enjoy our life as it is.

Are you worrying about the things in life that you can’t control?

In the case of the eclipse we did catch some view of the moon passing the sun. At the time of the total eclipse the sky was totally clouded. Nevertheless, the experience was huge. The light disappeared and the birds where flying screaming and disoriented by.

Sometimes events are not exactly what we expect. But it can still be an impressive experience to be enjoyed fully in the moment.

Choosing to live your life fully in the present moment as best as you can at any given time gives you the opportunity to really enjoy your life – no matter what. And it gives you a better change of bouncing back more easily when needed.

Choose wisely and enjoy your life to the fullest – you deserve it.


The sun partially covered by the moon.


Yesterday you could read about how self-harm has increased among young people. And that there is lacking a plan, how to help these young people who are harming themselves. The issue is, that you harm your self in order to create outside pain to overcome the inner pain. But this only work for a short amount of time! And more often than not, you have to harm your self more and more seriously in order to overcome the inner pain.

The fact is, that it is important to heal the inner pain in order to help you deal with the self-harm.

When you focus on healing your self from the inside out, the reason to you’re harming your self will lessen. You can’t help your self to have a happier and healthier life, if you only work on the covering symptoms. Therefor it is important to seek help from someone who are used to help people dealing with these issues.

When you at a lookout for help – look for someone, that will help you go inside to free the pain, by healing the inner blocks.

One way to do this is with the RIM technique. This technique is a great way to help you uncover what’s inside your unconscious mind, and to release these hidden blocks. This technique helps you in a short profound way, to dig deep and heal quickly.

If you’re harming your self, or know somebody who’s doing it, make sure to get some professional help, before the pain is so big that you can’t handle it anymore. The sooner you start the better, but it is never too late!

If you’re having problems today, don’t hesitate to send an email and schedule a free consultation with me. Here you will learn what kind of work is the next, best step for you, and you will leave with a next action-step to do, whether you decide to work with me or not.

Send an email to [email protected] and schedule your time. Treatments are done in person or through Skype.